Make lemonade came about after life had thrown our family a lot of lemons in a short space of time.
It started on July 8th 2010, when our much loved son Scott was murdered in his driveway on his way to milk the cows. He left behind a 7 month pregnant wife and 2 year old son. It was such a devastating event and mostly impossible to comprehend. Our lives changed forever in that instant and an unbelievable chain of events unfolded. Our family was thrust into the media spotlight and intense public interest. It was “a case that gripped the nation.”
We decided very early on that we were going to get through this, our family would be intact and that “some good will come out of it”.
It wasn’t going to be just another terrible tragedy with a trail of destruction left behind in its wake. It has not been easy, some days are harder than others, all our family struggle at different times, but we have learned to appreciate moments each day.
I started writing almost from day one about what was happening to us alI. I got all the rubbish out of my head onto paper. It helped!
Looking back I’ve come to realise we have learned a lot. We’ve come along way and we are still learning. The lessons are seared on our hearts. Five years isn’t that long and yet sometimes it feels like a lifetime ago. We now measure our lives from before Scott was killed and afterwards as they are like two very different lives. We no longer feel carefree but we are content. We carry an ache inside our hearts that, as parents losing a child, we know we will always have. Nor would we want it any other way.
Along this journey I have discovered that I loved to write, and I wanted to encourage families struggling, to cheer you on from the sidelines to “keep going!” You can make it no matter how many lemons come your way! You can make a difference for good in your world and to the people you love. So I will share my insights, struggles and mountains climbed and also that of other remarkable people I have met along the way.
On a lighter note I have maintained my interest in fashion. Our eldest daughter Nikki and I co-owned a women’s clothing boutique (reve) in Palmerston North for 7 years, which we have since closed due to the tragedies. So there will be style updates and wardrobe advice! My other loves are homemaking and cooking, they have been therapeutic in past times too. I’ve also discovered great recipes over the years, some are family ones, mostly they quick and easy to make for busy people. They are tried and true!
I do hope you are inspired following “Make Lemonade”
“To laugh often and much;
To win the respect of intelligent people and affection of children;
To earn the appreciation of honest critics and endure the the betrayal of false friends;
To appreciate beauty, find the best in others;
To leave the world a better place,
Whether by a healthy child, a garden patch or a redeemed social condition:
To know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived.
This is to have succeeded.”
– Ralph Waldorf Emerson (1883-1882)